I didn’t call you any names.
Chris Bender
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  1. Walking up to a Trans person, assuming they are either a guy in drag or what have, is Transphobic. You don’t have to know if the person is Trans to be Transphobic. That’s like saying to someone “Oh, he didn’t know you were Spanish when he called you a Spic. So, he wasn’t really being racist.”
  2. Semantically, sure this “ “waaaaah look at me I’m a victim waaaah I’m special.”” isn’t exactly name calling. I rephrase. It’s just pretty rude.
  3. If you find that funny, good on you. Myself, I can’t always go “hahaha, you’re making a joke at my expense. Good one.” I understand that there is a prevailing thought that everyone has a say on whether or not someone can be upset but the truth of the matter is it is not a democracy. It is a person’s right to be upset by something. It’s also in poor taste to tell someone they shouldn’t be upset.
  4. I never asked for special treatment. I didn’t “get mad and go on a crusade.” I went to the head judge and told him what happened. He went and did an investigation. The conclusion of the head judge’s investigation was that Ali committed USC-Major and would receive a penalty of a match loss. I was informed of this via Star City Games Organized Play Representative Patrick Vorbroker. He followed that up by telling me on the end of the TO, SCG, Ali would not be asked by to leave the venue. I voice my discontent with this. Which, ya know, I can do because I am a customer. Even the head judge agreed that Ali should be removed from the venue.

“I remember being asked to walk over to where Casey, Patrick, and Ali was. Patrick introduced himself and told me that Ali would be receiving USC: Major and would be receiving a match loss. However, because Ali seemed remorseful and it was really just a joke gone wrong he would not be asked to leave the venue. I was a little baffled and I expressed my feeling. I could not understand how a player who walked up and asked to grope another player would be allowed to stay in the venue. I expressed that I believed that Ali targeted me because I was Trans, whether he thought so or not. That what Ali had done to me was an act of transphobia and I felt very uncomfortable being in the venue. Patrick assured me that Ali was not being transphobic. That it was an ill thought out joke; nothing more. Ali would not be asked to leave the venue.

At this moment, I realized I was going to have to put my foot down. I had no real personal stake in being at SCG Syracuse. But as a customer, I do have the ability to take my business elsewhere. “If he isn’t being removed from the venue, I guess I’m going to have to leave for the weekend. I’m not going to stay at a venue I feel unsafe in,” I said to Patrick. His response? “I’m sorry you feel that way.”

I was floored. I couldn’t believe what I was being told. Casey turned around and expressed his opinion. He agreed that Ali did deserve the USC:Major, that it didn’t need to be upgraded to a DQ, but that he didn’t agree that Ali shouldn’t be removed from the venue.”

I don’t know how this is going on a crusade.

5. As someone who identifies as woman, I do view being asked if I will let them grope me sexual harassment. Just because I also can step back and see how Ali thinks that he was making some joke at the expense of a guy he thinks is in drag, doesn’t mean that what he did isn’t sexual harassment.

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