Isolation within Affiliation
“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
As humans we long to be connected to one an other, and in a life where you don’t know yourself until you know others, connection is almost a necessity. Interdependence is blessing and a curse because it is nice to have a shoulder to lean on in this big and mysterious world, but once the person or thing you’re connected to is gone you get wrapped in the soft and forsaken blanket of isolation.
The beauty in Isolation
I am writing this surrounded by dozens of people that love me, but never have I felt so alone. Through this isolation has came many beautiful and creative thoughts that wouldn’t have came, if I was basking in the fruits of affiliation.
I don’t see isolation as being cutoff, I see it as an opportunity to take a step back an analyze yourself and the world around you. Whether your discovery is the fact you need a significant other because you hate being alone, or you come up with the next big song or invention. In the soil that is your mind isolation fertilizes your cerebrum, and develops the beautiful flowers of thought.
Connection in the world of success
Don’t get me wrong isolation is a part of life, but if isolation is your life you won’t make it that far down the path of success.
You need to have relationships with people before they help you, You need to have relationships with people before they respect you, and you need to have relationships with people before they invest it you. But relationships shouldn’t start because you want to get something out of the other person. They should start because genuinely connect to them. Relationships that are started because one person came into it feeling entitled to a reward never last, and are never true.
To me isolation and Affiliation go hand in hand. Isolation is how you construct, and develop ideas for future products, and affiliation is how you get those ideas out to the world. Don’t live life in black and white you don’t have to be a recluse or super gregarious, you should have attributes from both sides of the spectrum if you want to be the creator and the business man.