Saim Anwar
Jul 21, 2017 · 3 min read

How to win friends…?

An interesting book to read…a book that teaches us ways to improve our lives or to get engaged…a book who guides us ways in which we could transform our lives…a book whose main objective is to give preferences to others rather than just blabber about ourselves…. Reading the book gave me an impression that how we’ve always circled our lives around ourselves..we have been so busy in our lives dealing with our routines our problems our issues that we even start to ignore people that matter to us and start taking things for granted…the chapter had numerous examples of people who gave importance to others who cared about others they had the habit of dealing with each and everyone in a friendly manner regardless of others designation…these were the reasons they were so successful…they considered their real success in maintaining a good friendly and healthy relationship with others rather than spending all of the time to ourselves… this chapter has given me the idea that may be we have misinterpreted success because according to us success means having a good degree a good job a luxurious life style but none of us consider to be a part of someone’s good books… all we know is what we have to do in life what are our future expectations are going to be but we don’t even bother to ask others who their life has been how they are dealing with it what do they expect from life…many of these questions remained unanswered and we mostly forget about them…

While doing this activity I got a chance to look at the bigger picture of life got to know what others had to say but never got a chance to do so… interacting with old friends but in a new way this time it wasn’t about me neither what I had to say this time it was about them..had a conversation with my professor asked him about his job and it felt great it felt like I’ve never known this feeling for whole my life…talked to my friend hours and hours and listened what they had to say and know I feel I couldn’t have been happier… this short activity made me learn a huge lesson that real success is not materialistic but it relies in what others think of you… if there are people who remember you in good words no worldly success matters more than that… and that’s what real fame is about….!

Though we may be taught that friendships are rock-solid, most of them in fact have their own ebb and flow. If a good friend is keeping their distance and you want to reach out to them, the best approach is openness, honesty, and a willingness to acknowledge your friend’s feelings. Take your time, be thoughtful, and hopefully you can repair and move forward.

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