Healing is Uncomfortable
Is it possible to heal?
Is there any way to deal with trauma, depression, rejection, grief, guilt, divorce, etc?
How do you heal?
How long is the healing phase?
Life does not go according to your plans. Bad phases are part of everyone’s life you are no exception. These phases are meant to test your patience level, the real strength is to face them with courage, hope and a positive approach.
Everyone deals with uncertainties and bad phases in life, life is not always smooth and glittery. At some point in life, we all need emotional healing, we go through challenges and difficult emotions that need processing.
If you don’t focus on emotional healing then you will experience deep emotional pain and struggle with negative thoughts for a long time.
Healing isn’t easy or an overnight process. The only way to heal is to deal with the deep heartache lingering inside you. You need to acknowledge, accept, allow, integrate and process the painful life experiences.
The cultural practice of numbing away pain, both physical and emotional, has become so normalized. But the truth is that the more we strive to avoid feelings, the less we are able to resolve our emotional problems.
When you seek healing, you must confront every ounce of darkness inside you, the ability to truly feel is necessary for true healing.
Emotional healing is a time-consuming process, depending on the things you are healing from, some events cause anxiety, sadness, and anger, and shake your confidence. If you know what triggers these emotions, you’ll be better equipped to deal with them.
After the healing phase, you will discover a new version of yourself, and you will note the post-traumatic growth. The bad phases make you stronger and in the healing phase, you discover your true potential.
Follow the following tips to heal yourself emotionally and see what works for you.
Self Compassion:
Self-compassion enhances professional growth. If you don’t have justifiable reasons do not criticize yourself. Accept your perceived flaws, and be gentle to yourself, in the start it will be tough but with practice, it will become a habit.
Self-judgement has a negative influence. You are human embrace your own perceived shortcomings and acknowledge your strengths. As your mental activity is so much ingrained or instinctual, it will take time to start practising self-compassion.
Take control of your thoughts:
It is your thoughts that cause mental distress, only you can take control of your thoughts. Focus on your intentions rather than mood, You can reduce your emotional distress by checking in more on your intentions and less on your mood.
Embrace the need for internal validation instead of external validation. Tap your inner smooth operator when you become anxious and overwhelmed, then remind yourself that this situation is temporary and I’ll go through it. In this way, you will acknowledge your situation without letting your emotions win.
Healing isn’t a straight line:
The progress in the healing process isn’t linear, there is no defined path and a step-by-step guide for healing. It’s a never-ending process between pain and acceptance.
Sometimes things will be too overwhelming for you to manage, but remember the goal is not to never feel bad. The goal is to develop strong inner resilience. Surround yourself with the best people, take as much self-care, as you can.
Take a Break:
Whenever you experience a setback take a break, and spend some time with yourself. Self-flagellation hinders personal development and leads to an inaccurately gloomy assessment of your potential.
Take time off from work and social engagements, and acknowledge and validate your pain rather than masking it with a busy schedule or obligations.
Therapy & Counseling:
Therapy and counselling can help a lot, if you have a close friend or a family member and you think that their support and presence can make a difference then ask for help.
You can also find expert and professionally trained listeners who can help you in overcoming emotional challenges. But remember the therapists and counsellors can only help, you are the one who is supposed to take the practical steps.
Set Realistic Expectations:
Take baby steps and start from micro changes. The healing process takes time so don’t rush, if you try to take major steps then you will feel overwhelmed and chances are you will give up.
Sleep Pattern:
Make sure you are getting 7- 8 hours of sleep every night to avoid consistent fatigue that will limit your ability to manage emotions. Lack of sleep can slow down the healing process.
Turn the anxiety switch off, and try to follow a regular schedule for going to bed and waking up to improve sleep disorders.
Meditation:
Meditation can help reduce anxiety, and you will gain a new perspective in stressful situations. You will start to see the world with new lenses when you focus on the present and become less judgmental.
Spending time in nature, and getting out in the sunshine can also help relieve stress.
Positive Visualization:
Compose positive thoughts in mind. If you visualize yourself in a positive, relaxing place, your body and mind will feel soothed and mellow.
Relaxation Music:
Relaxing music can reduce stress and promote self-healing.
Key Takeaways:
When we are seen as humans and feel connected to each other then our healing expands.
Healing does not have any fixed timeline, It’s an ongoing practice, so acknowledge progression during the healing process to keep the momentum.
Past experiences are not limitations, they are lessons.
The healing process unfolds your underlying strengths. Convert your weaknesses into strengths, and let the heartache be what motivates you to find a new path.
Healing transforms you into an entirely new person.
Let’s normalize saying out loud we all need healing.
We all are dealing with challenges,
We all need a step forward towards recovery,
We all need a life full of hope, vigour and optimism,
We live in denial,
We all need self-talk,
We all need healing, but we often avoid it because healing is uncomfortable.
May we heal from the things we don’t say out loud.
Thank you for your valuable time.
Let me know your healing journey in the comment section.
