How to Get Over a Bad Day and Stop Being Unhappy by Learning About Emotions (Part One)
How often do you have a bad day, a very bad day? Everything you do on that day is wrong, everything you say is a mistake. You feel like everyone is hating you. You are getting angry. Your face is getting red. You feel lonely. You don’t feel like eating, even though you are hungry. And you just want this day to over with so that you can start all over again.
I have had these days, more than I can bear. Even a day with perfect start can turn into a mess. I was angry all the time. I started hating myself for having such bad luck.
But each of these days has taught me a new thing. I learnt about emotions and found out how understanding emotions, but not having them, can be a powerful thing.
The more you learn about emotions, the better you will understand why and how people think and act. You will develop strong communication skills. Your creative thinking process and complex problem solving skills will take an entire new path.
But the best thing that will happen to you is you will learn to understand your own emotions much better. You will gain more control on your actions and in your life. And that is how I learnt to stop being unhappy on a really bad day.
I started noticing that I feel different emotion for each of the tiny events of my days. Some of them make me happy, but many of them make me sad, angry and depressed, leading towards a very bitter day.
I found out that most of the events that cause negative emotion usually occur for a very short period of time, sometimes not even for more than a few minutes. But if I get angry or depressed within those few minutes, I remain angry the whole day. So I started thinking what if I can teach myself not to lose temper, not to lose control of my emotions for that time being?
So, I started to control myself to keep calm and just let the time pass. I started to keep my mouth shut, and shift my focus onto a different thing. Simply I was not letting the emotion get into my head (or into my heart). It was not easy at first, but after some time, it became habitual.
(End of part one)