The toxic glorification of Motherhood and why it is harmful.
My late-night Facebook scrolling made me stumble upon a post on a mom's support group, where the poor girl was just trying to vent out how she is tired of being a mom and a housewife. As expected, most of the comments from fellow women deemed her thankless, insane, and said she should never have had babies. Why does it make people uncomfortable if a mom says she needs a break? Why is she “selfish” if she needs her me-time? Precisely, why is motherhood over-glorified so much?
It is because, in our “culture”, we grow up seeing our moms this way. After becoming mothers, women should quit their sanity, job, hobbies and only focus on being a mom. Heck, don't even think about complaining because then you’ll be a bad parent.
As a young parent, to say this job is “tough” would be an understatement. There is not a single book, movie, or article that grasps the complete concept of pregnancy, delivery, and motherhood. Everything is so challenging, and is sugar-coated a lot!
This glorification is harmful, as it leaves little to no margin for moms to give priority to their needs. As the result, they end up being more lonely, anxious, and an overworked parent.
So, fellow moms: listen. Let the other moms pour their hearts out without judging them! And fellow people, understand that becoming a mom might be rewarding but it is mentally, physically, and emotionally extremely challenging. So be kind.