And now what ?

I have to confess, I wanted to write this story in French. I didn’t trust my English level to be good enough for me to say exactly what I meant exactly how I meant it, but hey, I had to try at least, right ?
So my sister was getting married on Friday and two weeks earlier, I had given one of my mom’s friends, a beautiful African printed cloth so she would make me a dress.
When she dropped the dress on Tuesday last week, it didn’t even begin to fit me. It was like it was made for someone else. I have to say when I gave her the cloth, we did not write down my measurements because she already had them even if they were two months old.
So I called her and she told me to stop by her house on Friday so her daughter could take me to the person who made my dress and we would fix the problem. As soon as the tailor saw me and saw the dress, she said “but this girl does definitely not have Laura’s size !”
And then she explained to us what happened. Apparently, when she first finished the dress, my aunt said it would be too large for me (and it would have been, the lady recognized) and that she needed to resize it as if the dress was made for Laura (a girl they both know). But the problem is, my aunt made a mistake because Laura is skinny and I am definitely not.
Now why am I telling you all of this ? Because then I noticed something really annoying about this tailor that soo many people tend to do ! She explained to us what happened (probably because she wanted us to know the blame was on my aunt) and she seemed angry, which she had the right to be but … for about 10–15 minutes, she kept on telling the story again and again …

She was repeating the same words as if telling the story sooo many times and complaining would change something. It was full of : “we should have”, “she could have”, “we did”, “she misled us” …
At a certain point, I wanted to ask her “ and now what ? What do we do ? Can we stop complaining and just find a solution ?” But yeah, as you guessed, I just asked the first two questions.
And the story leads me to this : when there’s an issue, why do we tend to complain and tell the story of what happened again and again instead of focusing on finding a solution ?
It happened. It sucks. You’re upset. We get that. But wether you’re right or wrong, reminiscing is NOT going to solve the problem, which should be your focus now !
So … how do you act when there’s an issue ? Do you complain endlessly about it ? Do you lose time telling everybody what happened so they know it’s not your fault and you’re angry ? Or do you just work to find a solution ?

I have to admit, I used to act the same as that women but now … the moment I start complaining more than once, I feel like I’m losing too much time and I focus on finding a solution.
That’s the story I wanted to share with you guys. If you liked it and / or want to start a discussion about it, hit the heart button and share 🙌🏽
Thanks for reading !
