Your story brought tears to my eyes. I felt SO angry and frustrated for you!!!
I am also from the midwest, got a degree in IT and have worked my way up over the years, while being a single mom for much of my career as well. I have had my share of unjust experiences, but nothing compared to the cruel and overt treatment you received. Thank you for having the courage to come forward — stories like yours are the only way to bring these issues to light and ultimately be a catalyst for change (or the downfall) of companies like Uber.
It saddens me to hear you say they have broken your spirit. But I do understand that feeling. I felt my spirit was broken by a company after working there for 8yrs and finally putting in my notice as well. After I put in my notice, and stood up against my boss, he subsequently walked me out — after busting my rear end for 8yrs and doing an excellent job, that was the unjust treatment I received. HR did nothing to help me. I had even discussed my concerns of retaliation with them the Friday before I submitted my notice. None of it mattered in the end. That was in 2012 — I’ve had a lot of life changes since then and now live in the CO mountains and work remotely as a Sr. DevOps Engineer for a mid-size company in Indiana. Working remotely has given me much more control over my work-life balance, the relationships I choose to form with co-workers, how much of my personal life I share, and the ability to tune out needless noise, gossip and office drama. I would never go back to cubicle-land in a million years!
Don’t ever lose faith in yourself and your abilities, your creative mind, the value you add, your ability to #persist!!! Give yourself time to grieve and heal from the experience, but you will find your way again. And most importantly, don’t compromise on a healthy work-life balance; I have that now and would not trade it for the world or for a fancy executive-level salary. You will find your way again!
Blessings to you,