Look for ways that you are racist, rather than ways to prove you’re not. — Sara Milstein

When you say or read #BlackLivesMatter it does not mean all lives do not matter.

Art by Shirian
Art by Shirian
Art by Shirian

If you are enraged about what happened to Breonna Taylor, George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery and the countless others whose lives mattered and whose lives have been taken and you want to see justice it does not mean you do not care about your local police officer friend or you don’t understand how complicated it is to be a cop these days.

Can we take a moment to give…

In case you were confused.

There seems to be some confusion as to what a lesbian is. I have noticed this from some of the private messages I have received on Facebook and Twitter.

Hopefully this post will clarify some things.

Lesbian does NOT mean:

• A woman who is romantically interested in men.
• A woman who is attracted to all women.
• A woman who is a man hater.
• A woman who is angry.
• A woman who will cheat on her life partner.
• A woman who is kinky.
• A woman who looks or acts a certain way.
• A woman you can hit on behind your…

Rape jokes are not funny and not okay.

Last night I took my family of 7 to Tuesday Night Comedy Night with Mark Pitta and Friends in Mill Valley at the Throckmorton Theater. I often go to Tuesday Night comedy and have been a big supporter of it for years. I’ve even promoted it (just for fun) on my blog, Facebook and on Twitter.

Mark Pitta has been organizing Tuesday Night comedy in Mill Valley for years. I love what he has created with Tuesday Night comedy night and how he supports comedians (male) and some comediennes (female). And I also love supporting the local theater: 142 Throckmorton…

Sometimes it is better to just keep quiet

I’m the type who usually blabs my big, giant goals and resolutions to the world in hopes that I will actually do them if I shout about them to everyone. This theory didn’t work so well last year. In January, I posted how I was starting Crossfit and was going to go regularly. I went 3 times. Yep, 3 times and then decided Crossfit was not for me.

This year, instead of shouting about my resolutions and goals, I am quietly working on my success plan. …

I don’t fit in the box.

I have spent the last 20 years trying to decide which box to check off when filling out forms.

  • Married
  • Single
  • Divorced

How about none of the above?

Until 2008 when marriage equality sort of happened in California, I was in a committed “domestic partnership” relationship. No box for that! After 2008, I could check off ‘Married’ on my state tax forms but had to check ‘Single’ on my federal tax forms. Fun stuff!

Next question:

Do you have children?

  • Yes
  • No

I have raised 3 kids but I did not “have” children. If I check ‘Yes’ on the medical…

Sally K

Total randomness. Spreading happiness. Roller skater. Multipotentialite.

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