our culture is really unhealthy when it comes to sex and love and the movies really mess people up. That’s not where to go to figure this stuff out.
A mature emotionally healthy woman will love a man who is available to be loved regardless of his physical appearance
Alas, most women in our culture are not emotionally healthy and men are even more fucked up
FYI, it took me therapy to realize that I automatically do not notice male interest in me and I go to great lengths to deny this reality. I am an extreme case, this is related to trauma/PTSD for me.
….but I am far from alone, many women are afraid of men who are interested in them based on scary past experiences