Thank you so much for writing this! I only recently discovered this phenomenon and it has been very challenging. When researching movies about people with BPD so I could show them to my friends and not go through the exhausting explanation of what exactly is wrong with me, I found so many sites like this. The site I was on said that people with BPD were like 3 year olds and everyone who had dated one needed help/support/resources for recovery. They even justified abuse towards people with BPD saying that sufferers provoked them into it/that it was the only way to get through to them. As someone who has experienced a fair amount of abuse in my adult life and has spent years trying to understand that it wasn’t my fault, this shattered me. When I looked at the BPD subreddit, I saw so many disparaging comments from non-BPD people who have let one bad experience taint their view of us and make them think that a whole group of people is beyond help/not worth it. The smart thing to do would have been to not look at these comments, not fixate on them, and go about my day, but you may know that this is much easier said than done. I have spent so many years hating myself and to see this hate so blatantly was painful. Most people hate themselves more than they should, but these comments made me feel like I wasn’t hating myself enough. Having BPD is hard enough without all of the stigma and negativity towards us. I am in a transitional phase of my life now, post-college, and I know that I will never be able to give an honest answer when employers ask about the gap in my work history. It sucks so much.