“To achieve great things, two things are needed: a plan and not quite enough time.”
It feels like we’ve accepted stress as, not just an integral part of life, but as a requirement for achieving success. We almost treat it like validation — as an indicator that we’re actually pushing ourselves.
While that may not necessarily be wrong, it does keep us from using a valuable tool for self-analysis. The truth is, we walk around with problems in our lives for a lot longer than we need to. …
“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”
No one plans to fail. Few like to admit it after they do, and most want to forget it once it happens.
I wish that I could write a “How-to-Never-Fail” guide… but I cannot.
The truth is, I’m much more of an expert at failure than I am at success. And so is every other, very successful person that you’ll ever meet.
We get this wrong, a lot. We think we’re handling our failures by accepting them, processing them emotionally (maybe), and then moving on with life…
I have always been a driven person… constantly had enough goals on my plate to sound impressive in a conversation. But I realized, right around my mid-20’s, that I was much more talented at pursuing my goals than I was at fulfilling them.
I found myself in a place where I felt unfulfilled, unmotivated, and my next move was unknown. It was at this point I decided to do something different… nothing. I stopped everything. I decided to look in the mirror instead of relentlessly chasing the future me. …
Suffering from insecurity is not sexy. That doesn’t mean alluring/attractive/sexy people never feel insecure… we know they do, sometimes more than most. But suffering from it is very different.
Anyone who has known me longer than 5 minutes would say that I do NOT suffer from insecurity. And they would be right. I don’t suffer from it… but I do feel it, all the time.
(I think this logic also means that I’m alluring/attractive/sexy too.. happy coincidence)
But regardless of how I feel sometimes, I don’t live in that place of my mind… I don’t get stuck there.
There’s an old African Proverb that says:
“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together”
Now, speed and capacity weren’t really the basis for my decision to build alone… but that proverb does get the message across in a pretty effective way. For myself, there were a handful of things that I considered important when I made my own decision. I still believe it was the best choice at the time, and I don’t regret it. But, I may have gone another direction if my circumstances were different.
What do I mean?
If you don’t own something, you don’t have control over it…
There is no benefit in ignoring your own contribution to a problem. If you had something to do with it, I promise that other people know. But even aside from using ‘morals’ as a motivator… owning up to your part of a problem is really to your benefit.
We all realize that blame is an issue that only comes up when things go wrong. We naturally tend to use blame in those moments because it gives us comfort… why? …
I write about human potential. I’ve also designed rockets, developed software, made some babies, and started a business.