It’s almost tragic when you realize that things are never going to go back to the way they were. Nostalgia can become unhealthy because we begin to idolize the past. It’s easy to glorify what we can’t have to perfection since it absolves us of responsibility.
Experience alters your relationship with the world, with your friends, and with your family. Sometimes it leaves you feeling vulnerable and broken. You want to wish this away so that you can live in ignorance of this reality.
But, time moves in one direction. What’s done is done and cannot be undone. Things don’t need to go back to the way they were, they need to go forward to wherever they are headed.
I think this is most beautifully explained with the concept of Kintsugi. I’m sharing a few resources from across the web:
Kintsugi (, きんつぎ, "golden joinery"), also known as Kintsukuroi (, きんつくろい, "golden repair"), is the Japanese art of…en.wikipedia.org
The Nerdwriter’s video on Kintsugi
You could also check out Death Cab for Cutie’s album. My favourite song is No Room In Frame. I think this music is the perfect remedy for a broken heart.