“You learn when you listen. You earn when you listen — not just money, but respect.”

Sana ARazzaq
Jul 23, 2017 · 3 min read

Dale Carnegie’s book “How to Win Friends and Influence people’’ has been listed as one of the most influential books of all time. The thing i found great about this book is that it gives the real word examples so that you can try and implement them in your day to day life. I have always wondered how people can make huge number of friends so easily. I mean friendship and building trust is not a thing to be developed so quickly. Besides being very selective in making friends I observed that everyone wants to talk about himself or herself (one category described in the book). While there are some friends whom people approach to because they want someone to listen to their problems openly. This is how you become influential in your circle. Your listening to them attentively, will ultimately develop their interest in you. Everyone has desire to be cared, to be listened, and getting the whole attention. There are very few people who talk about other, who consider others along with themselves.

“Sometimes all a person wants is an empathetic ear; all he or she needs is to talk it out. Just offering a listening ear and an understanding heart for his or her suffering can be a big comfort.”
― Roy T. Bennett

No doubt people come to me for guidance and career-counselling, but this time when i’d to approach them for the project, most of them were like “O Hi Sana, How are you doing?, Where have you been? well that was the most funniest part i went through :-D. For that matter, unluckily i came across my stickiest fellow, who eats my head to the extent that i had to run and hide myself somewhere in the library or auditorium because she has no friends and i am a good listener. The most funny part came when i sat besides my brother and asked him about his day and tried to inquire more , his instant reply was “ Are you well today? How did you find time today ? well interacting with family members was like that initially because they think that i live in my own world, but i managed to grab their attention at last:-) It was a good life learning experience by listening to others.

“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.”
― Ralph G. Nichols

Through my friendly , calm and understanding nature i have managed to increase my friend circle , by interacting with fellows other than class fellows.That was the moment of pride for me when the whole class voted for me thrice to represent their class. Because i have been helping out by listening to their problems and doing all that i could do for them. Now, I realized that I am more like being interested rather than being interesting. I think that listening and helping others are one of the best things you can give anyone. Being a better listener make us an good conversationalist.

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