Lack of awareness of this very common response to trauma can have dire consequences. When someone thinks they didn’t do enough to stop an assault, they blame themselves. When someone reacts to a report of sexual assault by asking the victim why they didn’t fight back, they are placing responsibility and blame on the victim. This victim blaming, by self or others, perpetuates a culture where rape survivors are discouraged from coming forward.
A pesar de que todos coinciden en que hubo una serie de conductas inadecuadas que caen en los parámetros de hostigamiento, ésto no es considerado un delito. Saber que lo que viví no es suficientemente grave para ameritar una sanción es muy duro y me llena de coraje.
The challenge is when opinions come in at the wrong time (when it is too late to be helpful), at the wrong level (discussing a tree while completely missing the forest), or with the wrong context (proposing an impossible change that lacks the background for why some decisions were made).