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When we hear of somebody with “Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)”, we picture a wild, young boy who keeps banging against furniture as he runs through a classroom, oblivious to social norms.

Hence there is a common, but inaccurate, belief that ADHD is a cognitive disorder that passes once we reach adulthood. Adults also suffer from ADHD. It affects 5% to 8% of Americans, however, we rarely hear about adults with ADHD. As a result, a lot of adults with ADHD are either misdiagnosed as “anxiety” victims or undiagnosed, states Dr.


“Often behind a criticism, there is a wish.” Esther Perel.

Sarah to Pete; “I’m so annoyed at Helen. She never communicates what she wants. She expects us to read her mind and when we don’t, she gets frustrated!”

Pete to Sarah; “Have you talked to her about it?”

Sarah; “No way, I don’t want to get fired!”

Is this scenario familiar? How often do we hear a colleague, a friend or a sibling complain about somebody else?

In fact, we all complain on a regular basis. Research shows that 95% of us fail to complain directly to the…

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“Just like downing a powerful caffeine drink, “reaching out to others” pays that big “life energizer dividend!” Wes Adamson.

In the midst of the quarantine, I read an article about French philosophical workshops for kids and teens. These workshops aim to encourage kids and teens to think and talk about big ideas such as Freedom, Love, and Courage.

I decided to replicate this concept but wanted to add a more cross-cultural dimension — and thus interviewed 3 groups of 12–18-year-olds raised in Germany, Spain, France, England, and America. Specifically, I asked them for their views on happiness and asked them…

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“Women aspire to get a seat at the board table whilst men aspire to get a seat at the emotional intelligent table,” Owen Marcus.

From infancy, girls from Western cultures are often taught to display a large variety of positive emotions but to internalize negative emotions (such as sadness or anxiety). The western concept of what a man should be comes with other strict rules for boys. “Acting like a man” means being “allowed” to display a small palette of negative emotions (such as anger, disgust, contempt) but also being expected, to hide “feminine” emotions such as vulnerability and empathy…

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“This hybrid engine of self-interest and concern for others serves a much wider circle of people than can be reached by self-interest or caring alone.” Bill Gates

As the COVID-19 pandemic progresses, reports of selfish behaviours decrease and altruist behaviour increases. Our change of perception regarding this virus could explain this shift.

At the beginning of the COVID-19 crises, the media talked about the need for individual responsibility (self-imposed isolation). However, some of us didn’t comply with voluntary responsibility as cooperation didn’t align with our self-interest (we didn’t want to change our daily lives and stop sports and socialising). …

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“If you believe in yourself anything is possible.” Miley Cyrus

If you believe in yourself anything is possible. This quote resonates with most of us — if we are westerners. It has brought us up to think that confidence is one characteristic that defines successful people; indeed, when we see successful and confident CEOs such as Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk, we tend to assume that highly confident people are more skilled and more talented than their more humble counterparts.

What is confidence?

The Cambridge Dictionary defines confidence as “the quality of being certain of your abilities”. When confidence reflects our actual abilities

“The more freedom we give to Introverts to be them, the more likely they are to come up with their own unique solutions to problems.” Susan Cain

Since 2012, over 20 million people have viewed and listened to Susan Cain’s Ted talk. Since then, multiple articles have focused on the introverts’ valuable contribution to the workplace.

All these articles have focused more on how introverts can fit their workplace than on how the workplace can fit their needs.

Let’s start by:

  • Reviewing the strategies commonly recommended to help introverts feel like they belong.
  • Then, analyse our cognitive bias which explains…

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Until recently, we believed that the secret of successful leaders was their inherent qualities which include beliefs, values and character. Examples of this include Richard Branson at Virgin and Steve Jobs at Apple (the Trait theory of leadership). As a result, the ambition of upcoming leaders’ has been to emulate these victorious, charismatic business figures and become “The new Richard Branson” or “The new Steve Jobs” and enjoy stardom and financial gain.

However, for the last 10 years, good leadership has been associated less with personality traits and more with acquired skills — such as a successful interaction between leaders…

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“Both my best and worst habit is that I’m very impulsive.” Tove Lo

How many times have you heard this exclamation; “You’ll never guess what I learned today!”. “As humans, we have an impulse to share what is going on in our head, our feelings, our experience” stated Shankar Vedantam in his podcast “Hidden Brain” this week. This urge to share our stories not only differentiate us from other species but also influences what those around us think. Indeed, humans tend to believe what they hear as long as the story they hear is simple and easy to process. We…

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“There are two ways of meeting difficulties. You alter the difficulties or you alter yourself to meet them.” Phyllis Bottome

Most of us are aware that we should change our habits to adapt to our rapidly changing world. The immediate threat of climate change or job automation count amongst many reasons why we need to adopt new behaviours to fit in and thrive in this new world.

But why is it that we find so hard to change?

Sometimes, changing our behaviour feels like betraying who we are. For example, Susanne who manages the in-house CRM system is proud of her ability to process information quickly and reach solutions easily. She…


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