The most important thing in PICK UP

Sandro Safareli
Jul 24, 2017 · 2 min read

If you ask most advanced guys what they think is the most important thing in pick up, they usually say congruence. Basically, it means an alignment in your thoughts, words, and actions.
It means that literally your thoughts, your words, and your actions are unified.

So most guys if you say: “do you want to fuck Megan Fox?”

they’re going to say: “yes I want to fuck Megan Fox.”

But if Megan Fox comes in the room their brain is just not gonna be like, fuck Megan Fox, fuck Megan Fox. Their brain is going to be like, yeah I want to fuck Megan Fox, But I also want her approval, I also want her to validate my self-image, I also don’t want to be embarrassed by being rejected, I also don’t want some other guys to get mad at me for approaching her. So there’s like five or six different fucking things that are scrambling your head. Part of you is like promotion oriented, where you want to go in and have fucking fun time with Megan Fox, but most of you are just like this prevention oriented part of yourself, which is causing you to feel conflicted and just thinking of everything can go wrong. So when you approach a girl you want to be very promotion oriented, thinking of all the fun you could have and all the good fucking feelings you get out of it, not prevention oriented where you thinking of everything that can go wrong. Most of you guys are prevention oriented when you approach a hot girl. you’re literally thinking how she’s gonna react, it’s going to be uncomfortable, it’s going to be weird. So you always want to be thinking of clarity in your intent.
you have to know who you are as a person and what you represent to that girl.
so if you’re walking up prevention oriented where you’re nervous, you’re uncomfortable, what’s that communicating to the girl? you’re not that fun guy who let’s go and have sex right away.
you’re a guy who stuck up in his head and want something, probably will get clingy after sex,
it communicates all the wrong message. To be an advance in the game, you have to be very aligned.
you have to know who you are, what you represent to that girl, promotion oriented, clear in what you’re doing and congruence in your thoughts, words, and actions.

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