Maybe you should have stayed with your baby-daddy (we used to call them husbands in the old days). The problem with all these freedoms for women is that women abuse them and then cry foul. Your kid is YOUR problem. If you had had him with the right guy and wereraising him a proper two-parent family, you would have had a support structure. Now you find yourself exposed. Not too late. Settle down with a good stable guy and make a proper family where everyone is looking out for each others. Asking Stoppelman to look out for you isn’t fair and isn’t going to work. He has his own interests to look out for.