Bonding

How often do you come across a friend sighing ‘I wish I get a husband like you’?

I did, recently, and was laughing out loud with pride!

It was a working day, we both had classes, bunked, me from Finance session and she from her research as we planned for the Jungle Book.

I was riding while she said that, and I knew why she said so, because when I'm with her there’s a sense of completeness, a bond that cannot be explained. BFF’s sister and she’s one rocking lady I've met. Independently vulnerable, stupidly sensual, crazily brainy with a tummy that never gets full and a heart brimming with love. Continually yapping about Vany (pet dog), Meetu (sister) and Food-Travel-Movies. And I’m a great listener.

We got connected like Mowgli and Baloo — singing, dancing, gossiping and of course eating drinking and nurturing. Spontaneous plans and doing it right away, that’s been our way. Cooking, teasing and abusing and loving even more, being absolutely what I'm, sharing anything and everything and still her perfect hubby material.

Bichechi, I like someone.

Hmm.

He likes me too.

Hmm.

He’s got a kid.

Hmm… (Digging into the Royal Amul falooda) do they have a pet dog?

Bichechhiiiiii !!!

That would be our typical conversation scene, that’s how cool she takes life.

What exactly puts us together! An understanding that the only thing obvious and true about life is death, ranking second is the moment we’re living, the NOW of life, everything else is either past or fantasy. And that makes us live each moment, not treasuring, not cherishing, just enjoying without regretting anything whatsoever.

There’s a lot of talking involved, listening too. Being absolutely open gives us a freedom that can never be compared, especially when you know that you’re not judged or rated.

A relationship without any demands or expectations.

It’s fantastic to be in friendships that let you be what you are, accepting and celebrating how you are, respecting your thoughts, space and abilities. I wouldn't say choose your friends wisely, but choose to walk away from spaces that cage you, that pulls you down, where you’re expected to be someone’s doll, because your dignity matters than anything else.

Celebrate yourself, celebrate friendship.