How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie is very a great inspire for me. I have already read this book when my friend refers me. I found it insightful and particularly helpful, great Book.
One thing that I learned from this book is if you give well, you will take a good .So don’t criticize and condemn the people. World famous psychologist B.F. Skinner proved that an animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much faster and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior. We aren’t able to make real changes by criticizing people, and we’re instead often met with resentment. It’s important to remember that when dealing with people, we’re dealing not with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion, who are motivated by pride and ego.
One thing more, which was mention in book. When you meet someone and he said heloo, you say in reply heloo,how are you and show your excitement that you are very happy to talk with them. It’s a best source to catch someone attention. Being in a friendly way. “Because a drop of honey catches more flies a gallon of gall”. Make the other person feels important. Encourage others to talk about themselves. A lesson which I have learned from this book is easiest way to become a good conversationalist is to become a good listener. To be a good listener, it feels to the other we must actually care about what people have to say. Many times people don’t want an entertaining conversation partner; they just want someone who will listen to them.
Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely. The golden rule is to treat other people how we would like to be treated. We love to feel important and so does everyone else. People will talk to us for hours if we allow them to talk about themselves. If we can make people feel important in a sincere and appreciative way, then we will win all the friends we could ever dream of.
Interesting Challenge
When I was doing this interesting work, to ask them question about their life, and activities it was just amazing. This was good experience and was like a strong connection infect they were asking me why are you ask these question. And when they ask to me something I just quickly gave them answer and then move on the next question. Infect a lot of saying Thanks to me for this time.