My daughter: You will never be a princess
“What kind of mom are you!” This would be your reaction if you are next to me right now while writing this!
But everything happens for a reason, and the reason I’m not a mom yet, is that I had to develop the motherhood attributes while you haven’t existed yet. I had to be more exposed and enlightened before having you.
So in a couple of years (I guess) you might be reading this. And under no circumstance I would change this: Yes, my daughter, you will never be a princess.
Mom: Princess is not a word, it is neither a character. It’s a concept. Or to be more specific, it is a very well managed strategy. While a princess is so glamorous and appealing, she is just a product. A product baby.
You still don’t get me.
I agree with you. Because as simple as it is to call you a princess, I will make a real effort to make it a complex issue.
In a princess dominated world, I want to bring up the issue with you, because after all the princess culture would damage your overall self esteem, and you will end up having a hard time thinking of yourself outside the princess sphere.
The princess world gives you an unrealistic expectation for what it means to be a girl.
Life doesn’t come in pink.
Okay… You will think I’m not a good mom because now you are assuming am gonna deprive you of the little enjoyable childhood stuff. I promise I won’t. I will never. I can never.
I have a deep understanding of what is essential to you as a little girl. We will watch Disney, we will get those nice pinky dresses, and we will get the princess’s custom… It will be very fun and interesting. But along this, you will figure out that a princess is a fabricated image to enjoy but never to be influenced by. Okay? A princess is just an image to enjoy.
But mom, you are not a princess.
You will never be an image that entertains others. You will be a voice.
I want to expose you to everything in this world; I will never set you to be disappointed once you realize that life isn’t about royalty and a well managed appearance. You are meant to be great.
You will never be a princess:
She has everything ready-made. She is dependent, waiting desperately for a prince.
She has a constant need to be taken care of all the time.
She is spoiled.
I never want you to be Pocahontas. I never want you to be easily influenced by others.
I don’t want you to be submissive and dependent just like Cinderella.
I don’t want you to seek over protection from others.
I don’t want you to believe in perfection. It is superficial.
Mom! A princess is a lost child! We have a lot to teach her. You have a lot to teach her.
I want to empower you, not spoil you.
I want you to know that it is okay to be flawed. It is okay to have imperfections. And it is totally okay not to have it all.
I want you to know it isn’t an easy task to raise you in a phony world, but I will build up your character to the very best I can.
I want you to know that even if you don’t look like a princess, you will be the most beautiful girl in the world. BUT if you won’t recognize it yourself, no one would!
I want you to know that what would matter on the long term is how much you and I invest in your future self image. If we get easily swayed and influenced by the princess culture, you will be just like everyone else.
And I never want you to be like everyone. Note this!
You and I will develop the traits that make you confident, secure, capable, strong, fierce, ambitious, beautiful, independent, supportive, kind hearted…
I want you to work hard, invest in yourself, and never take things for granted.
I want you to appreciate everything. I want you to take responsibility of your own actions.
I want you to challenge yourself everyday to be who you are meant to be.
Till you be what you are meant to be.
All the love