…ad off, you might risk confusing the poor man who is trying to take you to the heights of pleasure. In other words, if a man fucks a woman in a forest and she doesn’t scream, did he make her cum? It’s a damned if you do scream, damned if you don’t situation.
I can think of another group of people, if we’re generalizing foolishly, who are desperately insecure, who see sex as way to prove or validate themselves. Who use sex in place of actual intimacy. Who have no trouble being dishonest and manipulative to get it, and who only care about their own pleasure over the more important values of sane, stable, committed relationships. Who are too damaged to actually connect with people and instead just go around fucking. We don’t call them mentally ill though. We usually just call them men.
Men own the narrative. Unless that changes, nothing will change. The #MeToo movement has made it a bit trendier to give women an empathetic hearing, but gains like these are easily erased. Even still, women often have to come out in massive numbers to bring down even one predator. If a man has to be accused of more than 50 sexual assaults before we see him as a threat, we are still operating under Cassandra rules.