Those are the ways my family has been dealing with grief, too, Chris. When my father was dying, we had important, though very difficult and sad, conversations about what we want when it’s our time. We started talking about death not as a medical experience, but as a physical, emotional, and HUMAN experience. Just like birth, puberty, pregnancy, etc. are part of our human experience, so is death. Our boys have very different feelings about death now, and a lot less fear, I think.
Thank you for sharing this; my wish is for you and your family to continue down this path, with beauty and joy around each corner.