Hi Jonathon — thank you so much for the feedback and the question. Here is how I would address that there is nothing wrong with us and how our thoughts lead to our actions.
When we are small children we learn by watching and hearing the people around us. It is like osmosis — what we see and hear sinks in and becomes part of our reality.
As we get older, the things we have seen and heard can become instilled as beliefs that we hold and believe to be true. Our thoughts contribute to those beliefs (a belief is really a related set of thoughts that we think — sentences in our minds).
When we think a thought, that thought creates a feeling (positive or negative depending on the thought). The feeling will lead us to either taking action or inaction and then we end up with a result of that action (which ends up as evidence to the rightness or wrongness of our statement.
So, as an example — if someone wants to lose weight, but all they think is “I’m too fat, I’ll never be able to lose weight.” That thought leads to the person feeling frustrated, upset, angry at themselves. The behaviour that results is directly related to those feelings. In this case, the person would potentially numb out by eating more food and not doing the things that could help them lose the weight. The result is weight gain which is evidence to prove the original thought of “I’m too fat, I’ll never be able to lose the weight.”
So when I say that “there is nothing wrong with you” — I truly mean that. You as an individual are amazing and you can choose to change how you think — choose what sentences are in your mind so that they are true to you. That will lead to better feelings, which will lead to better actions and results.
Everyone who thinks that there is something wrong with them just has not been given the tools to help them figure out what it is that is keeping them from succeeding. There is nothing wrong with them at all.
I hope this helps. Do let me know.
Sarah
