I tried to work with him in that format for a year and a half, through the things he tried to do to me. Ultimately he resisted, and I pushed him back to AA via Maryam. Sobriety didn’t end that behavior. But it clarified it.
I let both of them know that I would not allow it to be another “let’s make this our little secret.”
He has yet to step forward to remedy the harm done.