I’m accepting that some people don’t stay in your life forever

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Photo by Jamie Taylor on Unsplash

I’ve always loved the idea of meeting someone as a child and being friends with them for the rest of your life. Sometimes you hear those stories about people who have stayed in touch ever since their mothers gave birth in the same hospital ward.

These “meant-to-be” tales sound magical.

I always felt like someone would know “the real me” if we experienced all the milestones of life together. Hearing that “it’s not about how long you know someone, it’s about who never leaves” could never change my mind.

Despite my romanticized ideals, this has never been my reality. My friendship history is more like a series of intense whirlwind romances that burn out after we wake up one day and realize we’re not right for each other. …

I’m tired of the assumption that working is toxic hustle culture

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Photo by Joshua Rawson-Harris on Unsplash

In these times, many things are uncertain. Will we lose our jobs? How long will we have to wait for a vaccine? Is the economy going to drop further?

Apparently, another question is: what should we do with all the free time we have now? I say ‘apparently’ because my routine has barely changed — I’ve worked from home for a while and I haven’t lost much work (yet), so it doesn’t feel like I’ve gained any extra time through my self-quarantine.

But one thing has changed in my routine: I’m checking the news and social media a lot more. That includes Twitter — after having an extremely embarrassing account when I was 14, I’ve mostly stayed away from the platform, but I have a dormant account I use from time to time. …

Youthful arrogance told me to keep having fun

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A deserted Venice canal: image provided by the author

I’m writing this from self-quarantine in an Airbnb about ten minutes away from my actual house. I couldn’t risk staying with my mother, who has immunodeficiency, and my 86-year-old grandmother with dementia. Why? Because I’ve just returned from Italy, the country that — as of today — has the second-highest number of coronavirus cases in the globe. So many cases that the country went into lockdown a few days ago, when I was still there.

Looking back, I can’t believe it took the country going into lockdown for me to accept it was time to leave. In a country where hospitals are operating at 200% capacity and doctors essentially must choose who to keep alive, I was carefree (sort of) and going about my travels. …

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Sarah L. Bromley

Writing about the questions I wish I had the answers to. www.sarahlbromley.com

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