Why is being called a feminist an insult?
I am not ashamed to say that I have been a feminist for about three weeks. These past three weeks have been the most exciting three weeks of my life, at least in terms of me being fired up about something. Ever since I started writing papers for my Gender and Women’s Studies class, I want to know EVERYTHING there is to know about feminism, the social construction of gender, the gender binary, the list goes on. The thing that is most appealing to me about GWS is that it is so multifacted — it extends into every academic subject, it extends into the lives of all people of all socioeconomic backgrounds, and it is something that is relatively new.
I realized that three weeks ago when I was asked the question if I was feminist, my response was to scoff “hell no, I’m not a feminist. And here’s why…” I was terrified that someone could ever associate me with ever being a feminist. It turns out I just didn’t know anything about feminism. I was one of the majority of people in this world who associated feminism with all of it’s negative connotations… and there are many. As a result, the heavily negative stigma that has become associated with feminism has undermined women’s rights as a movement and erases years of forward progress.
The problem was that I didn’t know what feminism really was. When it comes down to it, it’s simple: Feminism is the movement that fights for the social, economic, and political equality of women.
Based on my three weeks of being a feminist, here is what feminism breaks down into:
While some lesbians are indeed feminists, not all feminists are lesbians. Feminists≠lesbains.
Feminism is not limited to the white female bourgeois of America.
Believe it or not, many feminists are very humorous and are generally not angry people.
Feminists do not hate men; we loves penises.
Feminists do not hate on motherhood. Although, motherhood=parenthood, thus the responsibility of being a parent is not just limited to mothers.
Most importantly, it is imperative that people do not confuse wanting to be the same as men, which is not the goal here, with the actual goal of achieving equality. Sameness≠equality.