…re we even talking about this? Because the size of your confidence determines the size of your life. The more you see yourself moving in a desired direction, then the more you're willing to attempt stuff that might not work.
In my experience the fearful struggle for relationships and occupations which have long since turned sour only causes further sorrow and turmoil; and yet still many of us persist, in spite of our ringing conscience, until eventually our reality becomes so heavy and acidic that we arrive at the point when one can do nothing else but surrender to fate. It is as if nature is so fed up with being refused that she resolves to destroying our delusions entirely, so that we might fall in with the life that is intended for us. This end need not travel so far, if only we learned to trust ourselves. But you see how nature insures herself, and repairs the decay of everything in this world, including the fall of man.