Aside from the four brothers part of this I’m in the same boat. Health issues with a genetic link. POCS. I don’t want kids. I’ve never wanted kids. I like kids, I’ve worked with kids, but I don’t want any of my own and I find young babies kind of creepy. I’m not in a romantic relationship and don’t see that changing any time soon and am perfectly fine with that. But when I mentioned this to my OBGYN (or rather, ex OBGYN now) I was informed that I WOULD change my mind and have children. To be fair, I am only 23, and it is remotely possible that I might change my mind… maybe… although honestly I’d rather adopt a kid that isn’t a baby… but still I might. But my doctor didn’t say that I *might* change my mind. I wouldn’t have been upset if he had said that I *might* change my mind. He said that I *would* change my mind. That’s a big difference. I wasn’t even asking to get my tubes tied, I just wanted birth control pills to control my period because I had had my usual quite heavy period for a month straight and that really really sucked. He acted like I was crazy to complain about a little “break through bleeding”. Then he mentioned that the chronic illness I have that makes me faint multiple times a day (my blood pressure randomly drops and my heart rate shoots up and then I fall down) can’t possibly be serious because “women faint all the time.”
I didn’t go back to that Doctor, but I’ve heard similar things from doctors before and since.
You and I both have perfectly legitimate reasons to not have kids (not even taking account that just not wanting to have kids really should be enough of a reason right there). I guess I’m just commenting to show solidarity. :)