I never imagined anyone would take being a spark-chaser as an insult, nor that it implied a lack of depth or “not being picky”. Indeed, when I was poly I was very picky, and mostly observed the same within the community. I also mentioned the person I am dating now pretty much only to demonstrate that I have experienced both lifestyles, it was not meant to communicate that the choice to be with him was better, just “different” I happened to have met him when I was getting a little sick of the negative sides of poly (they do exist) and he happened to be in a similar place in his life. However, my piece was not intended to discuss the nuances of being poly. If it were, I would have discussed my experiences with it in much more detail. I brought up poly because those who try to force themselves to be monogamous when they are clearly not made for it would do well to open their minds to poly. That does not translate to: therefore poly is lesser in any way.