I know you’re not fishing but I’mma bite anyway. You’re very lovely. I do, however, believe that you can develop a sense of yourself that is fairly unshakable. I say “fairly” because, as mere humans, we all have our moments of vulnerability, but I can’t help feeling that if you worked on attaining that sense of self it wouldn’t fluxuate according to who you were dating; women, men, or no one.
A prevalent part of your essay was the speculation of what men are thinking and why they’re thinking it. Speculation, in my opinion, is nothing other than a massive waste of time, energy and brain power. I learned a long time ago that if I feel the desire to spend my precious time wondering what some man MAY be thinking I need to move on. If someone’s words and actions don’t match up GET OUT.