Can I Live??

Why you should ignore the critics and #DoYou

Do you ever get sick of people telling you what to do/say/wear etc.? Me too. Sometimes it’s people you care about like your family and friends. Other times it’s people who literally have zero right being all up in your biz. Regardless, I am slowly learning how to ignore the commentary and keep doing what I do best — ME.

Here’s what I think the peanut gallery comments on the most…

LIFESTYLE:

For some reason most people feel it is their humble responsibility to tell others how to live their life. *Eye Roll*
Unless it’s your parents (they did bring you into this world after all), I’m not sure where folks get this thought process. Don’t get me wrong — good advice about how to better my life is always welcome. However, I’m referring to those who seem to have when I should eat, drink, sleep, travel, work, study, have fun, and everything in between down to a science. To be honest, I think a part of growing up is figuring out how to live a happy, healthy life — one that is unique to you. Especially since people have different roles, responsibilities, and habits. There isn’t a one-size-fits-all strategy to this, so when people try to convince you there is, try to take it with a grain of salt.

RELATIONSHIPS:

Ah, relationships. I don’t mean just with a significant other but family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, etc. Again, everyone is wired differently.
Disclaimer: I probably do devote too much time to this, but tbh it’s just how I’ve always been and will be.
I’m not saying spend all your time concerning yourself with people (this post would be hypocritical if that’s the case). I mean, everyone has their “list” of people who matter to them and you should evaluate those relationships (periodically… ‘cuz let’s be real, people change) as you feel fit. NOT because of what anyone else thinks.
I got lucky and happen to have the most amazing family, friends and colleagues. However, I’ve had my fair share of boy drama, friendship fallouts, and family feuds. The only thing that makes me feel better about those cases is that at the end of the day, I learned my lesson(s) on my own. #LiveandLearn

SOCIAL MEDIA:

At the risk of this coming across as a rant, I’m just going to say, this is probably what I use #CanILive for the most. I hate to break it to y’all, but for better or for worse, social media EXISTS. It’s already up, running, and everywhere around us, and it’s time you get with it. If it’s not your thing, that’s totally fair. BUT why feel the need to comment on people who are avid users?
Some of us (such as me) use it as a primary way to keep in touch with people. I’ve moved around my whole life and since it would take way too much time to individually call, facetime, and text everyone, I tend to use my social media platforms as a way to keep everyone updated with my life. It also allows me to feel connected/closer to those people I don’t get to see daily.
If I had a penny for every time I hear “You post about everything!”
First of all, I don’t. If I did, I probably wouldn’t have time to do anything else in life. Second of all, if I did, what’s it to you? I know I only follow people whose lives matter to me and ignore people I don’t want constant updates from. So, here’s a tip: if someone’s social media is simply “too much” for you to handle, then please feel free to unfollow or block instead of constantly telling them you’re uninterested. Easy solution.

CAREER:

“So what do you do?” — AKA: the most important question you get from everyone, ever. *Major Eye Roll*
Why is it that we hear “So what do you do?” more than “Are you happy?” or “How are you doing?”
I don’t know that I’ll ever find the answer, but it certainly does make me sad. Everyone has their own definition of “success” and “wealth” — the two terms most associated with your career. I have always felt that it’s a total waste of time to go down a career path for the sake of a title or appearance. Probably also for the sake of stability or security, but I understand everyone’s situation is different. Life is short — too short to be doing something miserable at least 5–7 days a week. It might take some time; people might make some comments; your parents might get embarrassed answering other people’s questions, but WHO CARES?
Do what you love. Do what makes you happy. Do what drives you. Do what you are passionate about. Do what’s most rewarding to YOU. I guarantee everything else will fall into place.
In all seriousness, we really should be more cognizant of the comments we make toward other people. There was a reason the hashtag #CanILive started, and while it’s hilarious in memes and group texts, that’s the only reason it should exist. If you really MUST have an opinion on these things, why not start with yourself? Evaluate each of the areas in your own life and how you can live a happier, more fulfilling one. I bet the results will be a lot more rewarding. In the meantime, I hope this helps serve as a little reminder to tune out some of that background noise and keep living your best life.
There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” — Aldous Huxley