Well, there is truth in that view that sharing will make shame crumble. Fantasies are natural. They can all be shared as well, especially if they are of someone like you, carefree. By “too personal”, I was referring to the point that you just recently decided to be with someone, to even raise a family with, and then all of a sudden! though you have kept yourself the doors of freedom open. When something very deep develops, it needs privacy/darkness to sprout and blossom. Like a seed needs to be buried before it can nourish itself and start sprouting. Sharing may not be good if it’s done before it’s time has come. Once the seed turns into a tree and yields fruits or branches that give shade, then sharing it makes sense for the tree. A seed cannt think of sharing, its too early for it, and some privacy and darkness might help it (nourish and sprout). May be two different points of view on sharing. Your point is quite valid and insightful too.
