Journey to the destination?

What stays longer —

The entire day or the moment when you go to sleep?

The obvious answer is what I’m trying to learn. Sharing my thoughts on the same here.

I’m trying to weigh and divert my emotions and time to events and happenings in direct proportion to the duration they last. Rather than equating their significance with the goodness/ugliness of what occurred in those events.

Journey matters, most times more than the destination

If you think like me you’d say that’s what it shall be. Enjoy! Live your life is what we tell others, are told also.

Remember Childhood

What’s the Christmas/Diwali gift you looked for the entire year. The anticipation,excitement through the year (right from the time your persistent santa — Mom or Dad promised that to you) would be something you may still be able to recollect.but do you remember how long that excitement lasted once you got it.for me it did not last for as much as i thought it would.there was an eye for the next thing to get pretty soon after.which is alright, natural you would feel.

But i see a more important and often unseen trait in that childhood incident of mine (and probably yours too). I was so engrossed in the wait for the expected that I might have not enjoyed the daily happenings in amore dedicated fashion. might not have valued those. Sounds over-stating ? 
well it is actually overstated. As children we are much more smart (designed by god) so we do manage to pick up the right value for the right thing. But as we grow up, step into adolescence, then become adults we all start into a habit of goals/ targets/ deadlines/milestone etc. and we lack the childish intelligence on weighing things/events on the merit they deserve. we instead take it from other people how much the event shall mean for me. And sadly we take them very very seriously.

Obsession for Destination

  • In high school/colleges, we set a grade/percentage goal for ourselves at start of the year.
  • For college entrances we set the college entrance as qualification criteria for our year long success or not.
  • We start our career, we set the time to get married (an age) for ourselves. we loan out to ourselves our own life’s slice and decide silently that point to ‘live my life’
  • We move ahead in our careers, we join offices where the entire focus is on deadlines, and release dates or targets which need to be met.

At this comfortable detached juncture(while reading a post) it would be easy for us to identify that it is not the most fulfilling method to spend time. being engrossed in an outcome (which you solely can never control) makes you let go of day-to-day happenings that deserve so much more value than the time spent over-strategising for the eventual goal. add to that — the panic that sets in, if some event/meeting/feature creep shakes your previously perfect seeming plans to year-end glory.

Are we enjoying each day, as it could , living in the above mentioned fashion ?

I see no logic in this way. i call this ‘obsession for the destination

Destination gives direction, Journey is everything that remains

I propose an alternative — do your thing. set out goals, targets,deadlines (destination) whatever is your flavour. They are important, they’ll give you direction. but do not be a slave to them. Be aware about them, but then live the journey.
It is much more worthy of your attention. the sweet little nothings could become a wonderful long-cherished memory for you. In your obsession for your destination you might have overlooked many of them. you may find plenty of stoppages in that journey towards your destination.

Become Lazy or become selfish?

Caring less for the destination is not same as being lazy. It may be ‘ being selfish’ as per Ayn Rand.

From wikipedia -
Rand acknowledged in the book’s introduction that the term ‘selfishness’ was not typically used to describe virtuous behavior, but insisted that her usage was consistent with a more precise meaning of the term as simply “concern with one’s own interests.”
The equation of selfishness with evil, Rand said, had caused “the arrested moral development of mankind” and needed to be rejected.

So I am not proposing being lazy, that too though is needed once in a while (Well, I need it). I am instead pressing more putting yourself first. And doing karma

So be Selfish, not lazy. Help yourself most before helping someone else.

Some mythological insights to the same argument

Image from :: IndiaTimes
The Bhagavad Gita gives a summary of the karma yoga process.[3] The Gita itself is a chapter from the epic known as Mahabharata, wherein a dialogue takes place between the prince Arjuna, and his friend and chariot driver, Lord Krishna, on the brink of a great dynastic war. Their conversation is prompted by Arjuna as he is engulfed by sorrow and misgivings regarding the oncoming battle in which he has friends and relatives on both sides.

From how i interpret it — What Lord Krishna replies is in essence “Live the journey, destination will take care of itself”. :-)

Krishna says:

“tasmad asaktah satatam karyam karma samacara asakto hy acaran karma param apnoti purushah”

which means -

without being attached to the results of activities, one should act as a matter of duty, for by working without attachment one attains the Supreme.[6]

In simpler words — Krishna asks Arjuna to do his Karma, to act and let other things take care of itself.

More on Karma

Karma has been explained by Halbfass[3] by contrasting it with another Sanskrit word kriya. The word kriya is the activity along with the steps and effort in action, while karma is (1) the executed action as a consequence of that activity, as well as (2) the intention of the actor behind an executed action or a planned action

A good action creates good karma, as does good intent. A bad action creates bad karma, as does bad intent

In my limited intellectual capacity — I’ll add to the above wikipedia reference that, regardless of the result of your action good or bad, what is more likely to stay in your mind is going to be ‘karma’ time that you lived. So, you shall relish it along with everything else that happens alongside without thinking anything about the result.

Results are overvalued, efforts underrated.

Act Casually is not what is part of my proposal. Act with all you got. But do not put in yourself on the line for god sake in anything other than — ‘your life’ . Things turn bad. There are unprecedented happenings. Your failure can just be one of those things. your 100% efforts are not the only factor to make it work as desired. It might be a flawed target in first place. Might be a cocky client. Might be economy. It may be bad timing. it may be catastrophic. Do not overthink why it went bad. You shall be happy if — while Karma phase if you gave all you got, none more than what it deserved.

Workaholics are evil emotional people who mostly stay sad(my opinion. Sorry :-( ) Don’t take pride in being one. More importantly — Do not end the world on one fail. If you failed , learn , do not ponder for eternity and have a laugh at — http://www.epicfail.com/ .

Move on, there are more birds tweeting (both online and offline) and pick the next karma, that you believe you’ll enjoy. and enjoy this one as well. Results are overvalued, efforts underrated.

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