I can definitely identify with the need for and value of independence and it comes over powerfully in your piece — your description of your own situation and experience is eloquent and engaging. I also understand that you want to use your grandmother’s situation as a metaphor —both because it inspired you to your revelation and also because it is tragic and emotionally powerful and you tell the story well. However, as a reader, I do think from the perspective of the narrative that the metaphor actually doesn’t serve your message very well. But I have a scientific background, so perhaps my understanding of the disease colours my reading of the situation. In any case, thank you for sharing the story and responding to me.