Open, honest communication is a two-way street. If you want me to be honest about what I want from you as a partner, what I am willing to explore in pursuit of your pleasure, what I am willing to try to improve upon, etc. I think it’s important that women do, in fact, tell their partners the truth about their experience. I’m not saying what time or place or moment is best for that, that will likely vary widely based on the nature of the relationship. But if you let men continue to believe in a fantasy I think it’s a fantasy to expect your experiences to improve.