You can listen to the internal voice that naturally pulls you to care and do the right thing — the thing you’ll happily sacrifice for. Or you can listen to the external voices that pressure you to do things you don’t really care about but want people to think you do.
This is a thing about ambition: It takes a lot of personal strength to be surrounded by people who are all reaching for the same brass ring and not think that you should be reaching for it too — regardless of whether you really like brass, or rings.
And there are more criteria to be met too. In my 20s, my list included being cute and not a sociopath. Now I need to know if you eat vegetables and if you’re self-aware enough to know what your issues are and what you’re doing about them. In my 20s, I argued that you could spend an hour talking to anyone — it wasn’t a big deal. Now I kn…
And at the end of the day, their life belongs to them, not us. They may choose to spend it with us — may stand in front of all your loved ones and promise this — but it’s all false insurance the day their journey diverges. And it’s not “the end of the world” if this happens — this is a completely normal thing, people living. And that box is always something that people simply allow.