When I was young, I was taught to share, be it food,toys or even time. If I don’t, I’m labeled as selfish, and you’ll earn the nickname “the fishmonger”, cause selfish, sell fish, geddit?
Generally I’ve learnt not to be selfish, I like being nice, unless it’s the young cousins wanting to use my phone, that’s a no no. But as you get older, you will learn that actually being selfish, makes you a better person.
Nobody taught me to be selfish, not my parents, not my teachers, not my friends, well maybe some of my friends. I never liked being selfish, but I’ve learn to accept that, being selfish does not mean being an asshole. Because at the end of the day,
No one knows you better than yourself.
Being selfish doesn’t mean not sharing that cookie with your friend that has been eyeing it like the cookie monster. We are talking about, putting yourself first before everyone else, and this actually benefits everyone.
The problem is, nobody knows how you think. They can’t see the world like you do, or feel the things that you feel. They are not in the relationship that you are in, or in the job that you’ve worked your ass off for. No matter how close they are to you, they have not gone through it like you did.
So when you put yourself first before everyone else, it means that you are thinking about what you want, your priorities. It’s about finding out your purpose and getting what you truly desire. By putting yourself first, you know what you want out of others, and that clarity is important.
Being selfish is not evil.
Not knowing what you want, and dragging a person along with it, that’s not going to turn out well. In the end, you can only wonder why you never got what you wanted out in life.
The world is not going to end without you. People may talk but soon it will just be a thing of the past. Life goes on, so why not make the most out of it when you still have the time? Stop worrying about how people will think about you if you make a certain decision, it is your life and it’s your choice on how you want to live it.
Now the next question is, do you have the courage to do it?