Why being a child at heart is the real maturity

Shivani Dubey
Sep 9, 2018 · 2 min read

We were in a shopping mall. He looked at his reflection in a large mirror and demanded that he wished to meet the other him that he was looking at in the mirror! He was a three year old neighbor of mine and I was a 22 year old adult figuring out a way to tell him that there was a Physics behind it being impossible for us to meet the other us in the mirror! :P

Lately, it struck me that being a child at heart is the most mature way of behaving. Don’t agree with me? Look at the following points:

  • A child never overthinks! You won’t see a child grieving over a year old friendship that went wrong or in fact anything that happened more than two days ago! And haven’t we been told to “live in the present”, “let it go” and the endless such preachings?
  • A child is very expressive. The society teaches us to “not express” anger, grief, stress and any other negative emotion and that has impacted our personalities negatively. We should be able to express our emotions of all kinds and accept them atleast to ourselves. The society has constantly defined our “standards of behaviour” and that has led us to a point where we are not even true to ourselves and that’s sad. Only when you have learned to cry wholeheartedly can you laugh like never again! You should even laugh out loud like a child because isn’t laughter the best medicine? Accept all your emotions, negative and positive.
  • A child believes in himself. Remember when you were eight year old and aspired to become an astronaut but with time your brain got you down into believing that it is quite an impossible thing and now you are complaining about either your job or your college or anything else? Do you not agree that if you’d been with that eight year old you and trusted him enough, you could go a much longer way?
  • A child spends a lot of time playing. And why does he do that? Because he loves playing. Why do you not spend part of your day doing things that you really love? When did you decide you are too old to enjoy? Have you noticed that the most successful people are always in touch with the things that make them most happy?

As someone wise once said, “All the wisest people I know, they are all child at heart.” So this moment on, find the lost child in you and he will tell you the right path, he knows the path better, trust me! :)

Let me know of your views on this.

You can also email me at sdshivanidubey@gmail.com

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