And yet, sometimes you need to kick your own ass
While Melody Wilding makes a great point about the necessity of the growth mindset and positive self-regard, too many people confuse “self-compassion” with self-indulgence. Melody recognizes this herself in her post ‘When Self-Care Turns into Self-Sabotage: Bubble Baths and Massage Can Do More Harm Than Good.’
So how do you know the difference?
Look for the keywords Melody points us to, like:
should
always/never
need/have to
deserve
When you find yourself using these words, whether it’s to beat yourself up or talk yourself into a day at the spa, it’s a good time to get mindful about the story you’re telling yourself.
I know this isn’t going to be popular, but instead of thinking in terms of self compassion, or self care, or self indulgence, it might help to think in terms of self leadership.
