Maybe they stay because they are working really hard to resolve a past trauma?

When someone (like you) stays in an abusive relationship, instead of thinking that they lack self-esteem, or they have some sort of insane or masochistic streak, I wonder, “What is the really big important problem that they’re working so hard to solve?”

    Thomas P Seager, PhD

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