You’re spot on, Jamie! Ross is an emotionally dishonest, chicken-shit, whiney jerk.
He’s also not very smart. Either the writers weren’t smart enough themselves to write him as convincingly bright character or they were writing down to their perceived audience and being just as much dicks about it as Ross.
In any case, Friends is nearly un-watchable for me because everyone in it is selfish and stupid. Especially Ross.