Sep 7, 2018 · 1 min read
I wont speak for everyone in my particular sexual sub-culture, but for many of us gay men into the fetish of wrestling or combat sex, the point is not the orgasm. If the orgasm happens, great; if not, it’s just the power exchange that gets — and keeps — us happy.
People focus on the orgasm like it’s the only goalpost on the football field. Sure, it’s great and feels wonderful, but it’s even better when it erupts — as it usually does in my kind of scene — almost spontaneously, when you’re so lost in the moment with your partner that it just… happens.