How I Learned to Love Women

Hi, my name is Sebastian and in the following lines I am going to tell you how I learned to love women. I am very proud that I can say that I am at a point in my life where I absolutely love women but that was not always the case.

Where do I start? When I was a teenager I was very shy and couldn’t even talk to women without getting red all over my face and without stuttering. I was always the nice guy and the good friend. Women told me everything that those bad guys did to them and I always said to them that I would never treat them like this. You guessed it: I was always in the friend zone.

A lot of guys who are in the position where they listen to women’s problems and where they are absolutely nice to every woman they encounter, are faced with the following development. Those guys, and I was no exception, develop a strong hatred of women.

When you always get rejected, you always get turned down, you are always way too attached and you never experience any kind of physical and sexual affection from a woman you get embittered and you resign. That’s exactly what happened to me. First I started to become indifferent which developed more and more towards a real misogyny.

Of course I couldn’t attract any woman with this mindset who would have been good for me. I believe that you can only attract those people that your vibe and your energy allow you to attract. In my case I attracted a woman into my life who was anything else than good for me and my personal growth. But on a subconscious level that was exactly what I asked for. She was very insecure, had a lot of issues with her self-esteem and a lot of times she was depressed without any reason. She ended up being my girlfriend for the next couple of years.

I wouldn’t say that everything about the relationship was bad and destructive but it was not the kind of relationship that you would describe as healthy and supportive. After I finally decided to end this relationship I wanted to rethink my way of looking at women. I wanted to rethink the way I spoke to them, I interacted with them and I perceived them.

I spent time on my own, I went for walks through the forest and I meditated. After exploring my spiritual side I realized that it wasn’t the fault of women that I had no success with them, it was my own fault. This maybe sounds obvious for you but for me it was a total breakthrough. The first time in my life I took over responsibility for everything that happened in my life by accepting that I did something wrong and that only I was responsible for changing it. If I had learned to hate women I definitely could learn to love women.

I finally realized that I always ended up in the friend zone because I asked for it by behaving in a certain way. Not one single woman put me there; I did it on my own. You can’t even call it friend zone because they didn’t even want me as a friend. No woman wants to be friends with somebody who hates women. I accepted that I was my own enemy.

I learned to overcome my anxiety of women and I learned the art of seduction with the help of people like Sasha Daygame and James Marshall. I became more confident, more life-loving and my attitude towards women changed the more my confidence level around them increased.

Many guys who start to finally learn how to seduce women after years of disappointment are motivated by taking revenge and by tricking women into bed. I didn’t want to do that. I wanted to become a better person. I wanted to be honest, authentic and a lover of women.

The next important step of my development towards a lover of women was my attendance at the Direct Dating Summit in Berlin. There I got to know the one person that really changed my life in terms of how I perceived others, especially women. The man whose speech changed the way I looked at other people was Steve Pavlina.

After this event I was sure that I will combine my desire to seduce women with my love and appreciation for them. Even if some women treated me bad in the past, which was alone my fault, I promised myself to always be honest and authentic in every interaction and in every moment I share with a woman.

As soon as I started to embrace the beauty of women and to develop a strong love for them as human beings, my success with women skyrocketed. Now I am always honest, authentic and I am not embittered when a woman rejects me.

I love every woman I’ve been with for the time we spent together, for the learning possibilities this time offered me and for the experiences we shared.

If you are a man and you struggle with loving women I can only tell you this:
To be able to love women you have to develop the feeling of love in yourself first. The moment you start to love yourself you start to love women and that’s when you will start to have all the success with women you could ever dream of.