Why Makeup Sex Might Not Be As Effective As You Think

seema sanap
Aug 28, 2017 · 4 min read

Forget getting physical


— women might not want sex after a heated argument, according to a new study from #Bucknell University in Pennsylvania.Researchers surveyed 74 men and women to name five specific actions or behaviors they thought they or someone of their own sex would use to make things right after a fight. Then, they split that list up into categories and had a separate group of 164 men and women rate the behaviors on how effective they would be in reconciling an argument.When it comes to guys, the results weren’t entirely shocking. Men found makeup #sex more effective at extinguishing a fight than women did. Guys also liked it when their partner performed nice gestures, like doing chores or paying compliments.

But those actions weren’t entirely up to par for women, who found it more #effective when their partner spent time with them, apologized, and even cried to show remorse after arguing.

That’s because taking the time to hang out with her after an argument shows that you’re willing to invest extra effort into your relationship, explains lead study author T. Joel Wade, Ph.D., professor of psychology at Bucknell University in a press release.

Plus, apologizing offers emotional support, since it puts the conflict back on you rather than your partner, he #explains. (Just steer clear of these five things you should never say to her.)

As for shedding a tear or two? Crying demonstrates that you’re invested and genuinely feel sad about clashing in the first place.

“Prior research shows that men who cry are viewed positively and as in touch with their #emotions, but not feminine,” the study authors write.

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So, let her know you’re sorry in whatever way works best for you, whether that be through your words or just making her some dinner (check out the video below for the perfect recipe) and watching a movie — it might mean more to her than a night in the sack

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Keith* and I met in our late 40s at turning points in our lives. We were both newly divorced and our children had left for college. In my first marriage #sex was always a struggle, and my ex accused me of having a low libido. But when I started dating Keith, I realized that I wasn’t the “problem.” We traveled a lot together and had #sex at every opportunity: on a friend’s bed at a dinner party, in restaurant bathrooms, even outside in a park. (Spice up your relationship by adding these things to your sex bucket list.)We got married in a small ceremony attended by our kids and close friends. From the start, our relationship was always very passionate, but as we entered our late 50s — I’m 56 and Keith is 59 — our sex life slowed down. Keith’s erectile dysfunction was a huge reason why.

I would never say that in front of Keith, and even now that we’ve gotten to a place where we can discuss what’s been going on for the past two years, I still wouldn’t use the term “erectile dysfunction.” I think a man’s ego is very tied to his ability to perform in bed.

At first, Keith didn’t want to admit there was a problem. When we would try to make love and he couldn’t stay hard, he would use being stressed out or tired as an excuse. Since he works a lot, I thought those were real possibilities. But when the problem continued, I started to wonder if he was still attracted to me. (These eight things can wreck your erection.)

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I now know that ED is an actual physical problem

Of course, I now know that ED is an actual physical problem: something is restricting the blood flow to the penis. In Keith’s case, diabetes, combined with a history of smoking (he’s since quit) and not exercising are also contributing factors. (If you’re diagnosed with prediabetes, here are eight things you need to do.) But when I would lie naked underneath him in bed and feel him struggling to stay hard inside me,

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