How to be happy again ?
It’s a helpful article for those who are struggling with their mental health and toxic relations around them.
Since our childhood, we have been noticing taunts, negativity, and toxic behaviors of people around us. Our elders have always advised us to ignore these kinds of people and their words. It has never been so easy to do so. I have a solution. Have a look at this quote from famous American essayist, Ralph Waldo Emerson, who said:
“Don’t waste yourself in rejection, nor bark against the bad, but chant the beauty of the good.”
If you’ll read this twice and focus on its depth, you’ll feel like you’ve missed the quote for your whole life but there is always a chance to change and do something better. Haven’t you heard?
“There is nothing permanent except change.”
SIGNS THAT YOU HAVE TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS:
A toxic relationship doesn’t mean that we’re talking about only a life partner. These toxic relations may include colleagues, friends, relatives, in-laws, or neighbors.
Whenever something unusual happens, it always gives a signal before. Here, I’m going to share some signs of toxic relations that might help you beforehand the situation gets worse.
1. Criticizing constantly:
Your partner thinks he is the only one who is right and considers himself a perfectionist. You will feel like your opinion doesn’t matter at all. This indicates that he is jealous and insecure. As a result, you lose energy and motivation to do things that you used to do before.
2. Being judgmental:
Another sign of a toxic relationship is your partner being judgmental always. He keeps an eye on your cell phone when you’re not around and degrades you for your work i.e. cooking, writing, sewing, crafting, or clothing. He never appreciates you.
3. Physical abuse/violence:
Abusing someone whether it’s emotionally, physically, or verbally is the biggest indication of a toxic relationship. You can never feel safe around an abuser. It may be in the form of constant taunts, forceful intimate relations, disrespecting, beating, and calling you bad words.
4. Dominating:
He doesn’t allow you to go anywhere alone and keeps tracking you. You’re also not permitted to meet selective relatives or friends. You are not asked about your choice by him in any decision. You are afraid to say no. In other words, your advice doesn’t matter for anything.
REASONS OF SELF- DESTRUCTION:
When you start feeling depressed, you overthink. Overthinking leads to depression and depression leads to a nervous breakdown. You want to be isolated and live alone without their interference. Whenever you are having a conversation with them, you start imagining in your mind what to say.
You feel mentally exhausted, physically tired, and unmotivated. Sometimes negative thoughts bother you from all sides that you start feeling to do suicide. These symptoms reveal self-destruction.
Do you imagine some peculiar scenarios in your mind? Do you conceptualize the whole conversation in your mind with some specific people even though nothing has happened? If yes, then probably you are going towards self- destruction.
WAYS OF SELF-IMPROVEMENT:
It’s not easy to get out of a toxic relationship and heal overnight. It requires some time and effort. These few tips can help you to heal and become a better you.
1. Write a gratitude journal every morning.
2. Do exercise daily to keep your mind fresh and body healthy.
3. Engage yourself in some outdoor activities such as gym, swimming classes, language learning classes, or any short course.
4. Start writing a diary daily at night. Write about what you did the whole day and plan your to-do list for the next day.
5. Develop a skincare routine. Give attention to your physical appearance.
6. Take shower daily, get dressed and get ready even if you are staying at home. It gives freshness and a soothing effect to the mind.
7. Meditate. Do yoga.
8. Stop your screen time and if you can’t do this then limit it.
9. Get in touch with a psychiatrist and take some sessions.
10. Sharpen your skills. Try to learn new skills you are interested in.
I hope this article will help you while passing through difficult phase.
