“Never throw out anyone” so this is a part of a larger quote by Audrey Hepburn that as i get older i am beginning to understand more and more.

I got to thinking about the people i have in my life that call me their “friend” and wondered if indeed i was actually that. So many people have no problem letting everyone know that “yeah im cool with selena we’re friends.” But is this genuine? Do they mean this? I then realized that I would have to know exactly what a friend actually is and also what duties (if any) come with this title. So I looked up the literal definition..

So i settled on the first three definitions because the others started going into what makes a “social media friend” and though this is a social media , it really isn’t the thought I’m trying to explain here. Im also going to go ahead and lump these three definitions together…


  • a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. A person who gives assistance; patron; supporter. A person who is on good terms with another.

With this , I asked myself if the people I’m thinking about who call me their friend actually represent these statements. And do you know what ? I was only able to solidify one.

I was very disappointed and started to feel sort of lonely. Then I thought, what if I am making the people IIIIIIIII care about feel this way ? What if I’m the one not making the cut when it comes to this definition of a friend. So I’ve taken the liberty of beginning to exercise true emotional investment for the people who I have so freely called “friend” all these years.

This has really opened my eyes into a new chapter of fulfillment when it comes to the people in my life. I do not wish to waste anyone’s time who dont value mine.

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