Fat Shaming: Just Why?

Fat shaming has been around forever.

Believe it or not, the U.S has the least amount of “Fatphobics”, and yet, the plus-size community still undergo hurtful comments daily. Like Tess holiday, the first plus size model that’s been signed onto MILK Model management recently, published a Instagram story of an uber driver asking if she is healthy, due to her weight. Which really enraged a lot of people.

What is Fat shaming?

Fat shame: cause (someone judged to be fat or overweight) to feel humiliated by making mocking or critical comments about their size.

It is really more common than we think, from shop owner’s “we don’t have your size.” To your crush:”sorry, I like thinner girls”, or even, my own mother.

The worst thing is actually ourselves. Because we are our own worst enemy. I don’t know why, but every time I look at a picture of myself, the first thought that popped into my head is “oh god I look fat!” Now, I quickly correct my toxic thoughts, because I am a body positive advocate. But if we as the advocates cannot fully accept our own body, and must photoshop and “correct” our images before we even let others to see, are we really promoting real body positivity? Shouldn’t body positivity be about accepting, loving, praising our flawed bodies? Even if they are not up to our own standards? Whether we are too thin, too fat, too muscle-y, too crooked?

And given the fact of having to endure being fetishized by the “chubby chasers”. Lots of women (and men!) has encounter the opposite sex liking us just for our bodies. I guarantee you, as a woman, I have been approached on the street by various guys who cat called me, from nice compliments, to downright vulgar remarks, such as “let’s go to a hotel mami!” (I admit, this may have to do with the fact I am Asian than chubby) I believe every woman, not limited to those who are plus sized, has been sexualized into just a thing before. It is also one of my biggest pet peeves throughout my life. (I encounter more of the “yellow fever” rather than chubby chasers which I will save it in another post) But generally speaking, they only cared about the girl as a sexual object, whether it is Asian, or chubby girls. Same thing.

how do we stop it?

We could stop fat shaming by realizing everyone have a different body and that body is beautiful no matter what the size, shape, or weight it is, and truly believes it. It is your own body and no one (not even you!) is allowed to disrespect it. Our body support us in more ways than we can imagine, and take abuses either from within, or with outside forces, there is no reason why we can’t respect it, and love it. From the depth of our hearts.