How working together can help us all meet our needs, particularly in a time of crisis.

What is BDSM and why do people do it?

I spent over $1,100 to get into a Ph.D. program. I’m sharing the details both for people who are considering applying to grad school and want a clearer sense of the cost, and for people who might otherwise never consider what these costs could look like. What I spent $1,100 on The biggest piece was…

Cop shows perpetuate a fantasy that the primary function of the police is to stop violent criminals and serve the community.

“Safe sex” implies a clear division between sexual activities that are high risk and ones that are risk free. But most sexual activity has some risk, and the amount of risk for different activities varies along a continuum. Penetrative sex with condoms is safer than penetrative sex without condoms, but…

Relationships come in all shapes and sizes. Some relationship are monogamous and some are non-monogamous. Some include sex and some don’t. Some progress through moving in together, getting married, and having kids, and some don’t do any of these things, just do some of them, or do them in a…

If you have an STI, it’s best to tell your partner before having sex. But there’s a bunch of reasons people find that hard to do. So if you want to know about your partner’s health, you should step up and start that chat. But how do you actually do…

When a friend of mine mentioned to his doctor that he was in a non-monogamous relationship, the doctor immediately warned him about his “high risk behavior.” But without a lot more detail, there’s really no reason for the doctor to make that judgement. …

Metaphors can be a helpful way to talk about sexual consent, but they can also sometimes fall short. So here’s a close look at some of the ideas that metaphors convey successfully and some of the nuance they leave out. Simple as Tea “If you are still struggling with consent, just imagine instead…