Oh man… that hits home. It took me 4 years, and some brutally frank (but gently delivered) peer feedback for me to break myself of the work-for-hours-after-the-kids-are-in-bed habit. 30 minutes of “me time” followed by mayyyyyyybe 6 hours of sleep each day just wasn’t sustainable.
I was moving up the ladder and getting good bonuses and told myself “it’s all for my family–for our financial security”. But honestly, that was bullshit. At first, I was super excited about my job. Then the long hours were ego-driven (“I can do this, goddammit!”). And eventually, I just felt trapped: I’d built a reputation on all that hard work, and was too gutless to see what would happen if I scaled back.
But sustained work/life imbalance caught up with me eventually. So now I give it my all for 8 hours at the office, then I give myself a rest. And surprise, surprise… I haven’t been fired! Pretty sure I’m easier to be around, too.
Thanks for starting a conversation about the foolishness of ego-driven sleep deprivation, Jason Fried. It needs to be said.